Experiential Alternatives

It was time to close this chapter in your life. You had known this for quite some time but had been hesitant. There was something that kept holding you back.You kept thinking things would change.You thought that if you were patient and waited, things would slowly turn around. And then you woke up one day to a new drum beat.You realized that you had been waiting, waiting for that moment that never came. You realized that you had been holding your breath, waiting for a sign. Instead you took a deep breath and said it’s time. Time to move forward. Time for a new chapter. Time to begin your journey. Time to take the steps down a new path. It was time. Let the adventure begin.

It was time for my annual trek to Mazatlan, MX to regroup, recharge and refresh my mind, body and spirit. As I sat and contemplated my life, I was astonished by all the natural beauty that surrounded me. It was a gift to stop, breathe and appreciate all of my blessings, particularly the sound of the ocean. It reminded me that there is a simple rhythm in life. Things move forward and backward, contract and expand in proportion to the energy we carry. As I watched the waves move towards the shore and then away, it reminded me of the times that I took two steps forward and one step back. What seemed to always get in the way was fear. Fear of the unknown creates stories that for the most part are untrue. We tell ourselves a story about why we can’t do something and the next thing you know, we’ve talked ourselves out of doing the one thing that we had dreamed about most of our life. Ask yourself, “What part of your story is no longer true or was never true?” Allow your story to unfold as the gift you are to all of mankind. Your chapter is needed as part of the universal story. Let’s get writing.

Something that keeps me awake at night is the question of mortality. I think about life, death and time. My life has been great, a calling with movement into new areas. Recently I have been pondering death and how much time there really is left on this earth. It feels like the clock is ticking faster and that the battery may run out. When this thinking occurs, it can impact your day to day ability to complete tasks and move towards ideas that are percolating. Remember that each day is a gift and you can choose to focus on that which will fill you with love and happiness. Remember to take the time to do the things you want to do. Be grateful for all of your life experiences and honor all the lessons learned whether they were positive or negative. Each day, take a deep breath and be grateful that your eyes have opened yet another day. Life is precious. Don’t spend it wishing for something to happen or waiting for someone to come along. You already know what you need to do. Stay grounded in the now. Love yourself for the grand person that you are becoming. You are a gift. The world is waiting for you. It’s time.

Why do we choose at times to head down a path that really doesn’t fit on our life map that we have created? I know I have gone down several paths throughout the years that took me to places that I thought would destroy me. I had lost trust in the process of the universe and the belief that we all have a role in creating our own destiny. Thankfully, I experienced a shift that came when I could step back and trust in the great forse of life. There is a larger hand that is guiding us each and every day. We have to wake up, be alert and look for what has been placed directly in front of us. You have the ability and the power to create the life of your dreams. You have to believe that it is possible but more importantly you have to trust in the process that is unfolding in your own life. Once you have done this, doors will fly open, hands will extend to help and your dreams will be realized. Make a commitment today to start each day with the following questions. “What am I here to do today?” “How can I make a difference in someone elses life?” “Where can I make the greatest impact?” You have the opportunity to share your gifts every day simply by trusting in the great force of life. Blessings.

One of my favorite movies when I was young was the Wizard of Oz. At the end of the movie when Dorthy is trying to get home, Glenda tells her she always had the power. Once she clicked her heels together three times, she was waking up safely tucked in her bed with family and friends surrounding her. I was always so relieved when she had made it home and away from the wicked witch.

I think there are times in our lives that feel like we are surrounded by the wicked witches of life. Nothing seems to go right and feelings of hopelessness and despair seem to settle in. It can feel like we are trapped, captured by our own limiting beliefs. We have convinced ourselves to give up and that nothing is going as planned. These are the times when we should not and cannot give up. You must stand tall in your power and trust that what you are seeking is seeking you. Stop and focus on what it is that you really want in your life. Take the time to gain some clarity and write down your ideas and dreams. You have to picture what you want in order to make it a reality. Once your vision is clear, start small. Begin by taking baby steps. The key is to begin. Once you get started, you will feel movement and know that you are on your way. Today is the day. Don’t wait another minute. Let’s go!

The seasons are changing. It’s astonishing how quickly time is moving these days. One minute it was the holidays and now the birds are singing, the sun is shining, buds are blooming and folks are shedding their winter blues. Everywhere I go, I feel a sense of hope and expectation. You can feel the movement all around us. People are getting ready for their own personal spring cleaning. Let’s clear the clutter. Starting with your mental clutter, let go of the limiting beliefs that you have held on to for too long. Discard the idea that you aren’t enough. Here is a question that I would like you to ponder. What part of your story is no longer true or was never true? Our stories encompass the parts of our lives that have ended. That particular time was important and served us well but the story no longer applies to the here and now. As the seasons change, so has the seasonality of our lives. Clear the physical clutter. Let’s make space for the next part of our journey. Discard the things that no longer have meaning or serve us in our physical realm. Make a plan to get rid of the stuff that has accumulated over time and is simply taking up space. Once you open up your physical space, space will open up within you as well. It’s time to welcome Spring into your heart. Let go and lead from a heart centered space. You are ready. Spring has sprung.

The holidays have come and gone and we are more than halfway through the first month of the year. Many folks spent time with family and friends and honored their individual traditions. For many, they were alone, struggling through the HOLIDAY season. What can you do to assure the holiday spirit is alive and well throughout the year not just a seasonal idea? Let’s pay it forward. The simple answer-LOVE. Spread some love each day. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. Small gestures add up in your day to day life. Here are a few suggestions that are simple yet can be profound to someone else. Pay for someone’s grocery bill. Pay for a cup of coffee at a drive thru. Pay for someone to shovel your neighbors driveway after the first snow. If you don’t have or want to spend money, offer your services. Offer to clean someone’s house. Bake some goodies for a neighbor. Offer your time and attention to your friends and family in whatever way they need. Any gesture of kindness makes a difference. Don’t underestimate the power of love. You never know what trials and tribulations someone is dealing with in their life. Your offer could be the one thing that changes a life and in some cases saves a life. Give from your heart. The simple answer-LOVE.

Sometimes I think we take our life for granted. I know that when I was younger, I had this notion that I was invincible, that I could continue to make unhealthy choices and there would be no consequences. I was on a path that could have led to disaster but I was stopped in my tracks. Several challenges presented themselves that forced me to change my path. And I am thankful that I did. We are all presented with opportunities for change. We get nudges that it is time for a different job, a different relationship, a different city, a different life. What gets in the way of taking that step towards a happier life? Usually it is a set of limiting beliefs that were created from a story that no longer holds true in our lives. We get caught up in thinking that change is too difficult and so we continue to tolerate that which no longer serves us. There comes a time in our life when we have a defining moment. Something triggers us and we realize that change is inevitable. We can lean into the change or we can go kicking and screaming but we will go. And isn’t that just the miracle of life? It surprises us when we least expect it. Next time you get that nudge, close your eyes and breathe into it. Allow yourself to feel it, smell it, taste it and then start. Take the step that will begin the journey to a happier life. Don’t hesitate another minute. It’s time.

We are entering that time of year when we give formal thanks for all that we have and all that we are becoming. I have a daily ritual that I would like to share with you. Each day when I wake up, the first thing that I say to myself is, “I am grateful I woke up this morning. There are folks who did not. What am I here to do today?” There are many that live in a negative space, focused on lack and what they think they are owed. Perhaps they had an unhappy childhood or come from circumstances that were less than ideal. Unfortunately, they are stuck in the past and can’t seem to move into a different thinking pattern. It is said, “change your thinking, change your life.” And part of the change requires an attitude of gratitude. It is amazing what a change in attitude can do for your everyday life. Try this exercise for 30 days. It is called the Mirror Exercise. Begin your day by standing in front of the mirror and appreciating you and your life. Say out loud what you are grateful for and that you love yourself. Some folks do this at the end of the day. It helps change your mind about the idea of gratitude and what you can be grateful for everyday. The gratitude that you express daily for those around you and for yourself will have a big impact on how you go about each day. You will find yourself smiling more and giving thanks for all the small things in your life. Today, express gratitude to someone that you haven’t spoken to in awhile and thank them for being a part of your journey. Continue on with your daily ritual and remember to begin each day from a heartfelt space. Namaste.

It takes courage these days to live in our world. So many changes, split second alterations and iterations in our lives. Most folks think of courage as an outward gesture, stepping into situations that may bring harm and helping to mitigate a situation or event. But let’s talk about the courage to be fully present. The courage to oerate from an authentic space. The courage to show up in your life. The courage to let people into your heart. These types of courage take a great leap on your part, to step into your own greatness and allow others to see the real you. Why are folks afraid to live their lives from a couragweous standpoint? Fear can stifle, immobilize and basically freeze an individual in their tracks. There is no forward movement and eventually we find ourselves stuck in an old story that no longer serves our highest calling. It takes courage to re-write your story as you, right now, your present self. Your story helped shape who you are today and gave you the courage to walk down a different path. The path is calling you. Breathe deep. Go inside yourself and find the courageous self that has been there waiting. It is time. No more hesitation. Find the courage to step into your greatness and live the life that is yours for the taking. If you need assistance in finding your courage, call me at 816-309-8543 or contact me at sharon.mcgloin@experientialalternatives.com.